When someone presents well, it’s important not to underestimate how skilled some perpetrators can be at using manipulative behaviors. Strong interviewing skills are very important in situations where manipulation is likely, as they help uncover inconsistencies and assess credibility. Using thoughtful, safe, and strategic interviewing techniques supports offender accountability, helps protect children and survivors, and ensures that everyone receives the services and support they need.
The goal of interviewing the perpetrator is to learn from their perspective:
It is best to prepare ahead of time for your interview. Gather as much information from the survivor and the children first to determine the best approach for interviewing the perpetrator, and if there are any safety precautions needed. Do not disclose any statements given to you by the survivor or the children. Practice interviewing skills to increase confidence and competence, ask for support from supervisors to help mitigate feelings that come up with a strategy to use if the interview becomes difficult.
Keep the focus on the safety of the children. The perpetrator may make attempts to steer the interview in other ways-such as the survivor’s behaviors; be sure to emphatically declare the purpose of the interview and repeat it as often as necessary. Educate the perpetrators about the impact their abuse has on the children. Express that the primary expectation is that coercive control (name the behaviors) and abuse must cease for family reunification.
Whenever possible, rely on third-party sources such as treatment providers, law enforcement records, court documents, and child welfare histories to corroborate information, particularly in cases where there may be attempts to avoid accountability for prior abusive behavior. Perpetrators frequently deny abusive actions, minimize the severity of their behavior, or place responsibility on the survivor. These statements should be carefully documented, and the interview should be redirected to focus on the perpetrator’s specific actions and behaviors.
A primary component of perpetrator accountability is avoiding collusion by consistently maintaining focus on the individual’s abusive behaviors and their responsibility to support the safety and well-being of the children. While rapport is important, we should avoid becoming overly friendly. Maintain a professional, calm, and consistent demeanor, as the interviewer’s approach can significantly influence the interaction.
Use active listening, reflective statements, and open-ended questions delivered in a non-threatening, non-confrontational manner. Ask general, indirect questions about the individual’s relationship with their partner or the survivor, as well as what the children need from them to feel safe and secure. Emphasize collaboration by exploring how we can work together to support these safety goals.
